Talking to someone you trust and who will listen.  You can decide how much you tell them and what you tell them.  Talking through what has happened is part of the healing process. If you cannot talk to someone you know then contact a support agency list below.

Develop a network of supportive friends, family members, and or professionals who can offer support when you need it.  If you do have a bad day then they will understand and be there for you.

It is very important that you take time for yourself.  Often abused children have learned to put their needs last.  This will carry on to adulthood.  That has to change!

During the recovery period it is essential that you put your needs first.  Treat yourself to a new outfit or season ticket to watch the match.  It is equally as important to take care of your physical self - eat well, drink plenty of water.  Do not drink or smoke too much!

The recovery process takes time, do not put yourself under any pressure.  If you get any thoughts of self-blame or guilt, then talk yourself out of it.  What has happened is not your fault - the fault lies completely with the abuser, no matter what they may have said.  Treat yourself as you would if someone you loved had gone through a similar experience.

You need to release some of the hurt and anger in a healthy way.  Write down your thoughts and feelings about what happened to you.  Take up an activity where you will be able to release your feelings - art, squash or the gym.